I'll let the organizations speak for themselves. Everyone seems to think that they claimed to have a "Cure" simply because they offer help to people like myself. I'd highly encourage you to check out what they have to say for themselves:
In my case, I spent 12 years with the "Gay" label and I no longer feel that the "Gay" label is accurate. I still experience some SSA (Same-Sex Attraction), but much less than before. Even if I had not experienced that healing, I would still say that Homosexuality itself is a suppression of the healthy relational nature that all human beings are designed for. I realize many will be angry and stop reading here. A few years ago, I would have been enraged at hearing anyone say what I just wrote.
I received a few emails and comments this week about Matt Moore, who happens to be a Facebook friend of mine. We have chatted a few times and I continue to admire him for his courage and faith. He chose to stop living an active gay life about two years ago and has spoken of this choice in his blog: http://moorematt.com/.
He has never claimed to be "Ex-Gay" or to be "Heterosexual." I'm not even sure if he ever sought out "Reparative Therapy." While I don't condone his action last weekend (and neither does he), I have a hard time understanding the media attention and scrutiny. I have known many Alcoholics who have become sober, but then fell off the wagon momentarily (especially within their first two years of sobriety). MSNBC did not run News stories about them with headlines claiming AA doesn't work and binge drinking is the ONLY acceptable lifestyle for someone who struggles with Alcoholism.
While I personally have benefited tremendously from Reparative Therapy, I try to avoid getting into arguments about the "root causes" of SSA (Same-Sex Attraction). To me they are largely irrelevant. There may be some genetic factors that can contribute to the development of SSA (Same-Sex Attraction), but that doesn't mean I was "Born To Be Gay" or that Homosexuality is a complete "orientation" of it's own. There is far more evidence of genetic links to alcoholism, but no one is saying that people are "born to be Alcoholics" and should never be allowed to leave the bar. Nor has anyone attempted to ban AA meetings.
I realize many will disagree with my premise that Homosexuality is not a complete "orientation" on it's own. Some who read this may feel that they were "Born to be Gay." While we may disagree on that subject, I do want to respect you and your freedom to make your own life choices. My blog is not intended to be an attack on anyone. I always want to avoid the political implications. I know that no one has "Chosen" to be "gay." I also know that it's generally not possible to simply "Pray Away the Gay." I'm not even sure if anyone ever actually claimed to have done that.
I do know that choosing to surrender my will and my sexuality to God three years ago was the best decision of my life. I also KNOW that Reparative Therapy, the Courage Apostolate, and Journey into Manhood have helped me to experience massive healing of emotional wounds as well as significant Spiritual Growth. These have led to a significant decrease in my SSA (Same-Sex Attraction) over the last three years. I am 34 years old now and EVERY aspect of my life is better than ever before.
It has been over two years since my last sexual encounter, but I still experience some SSA. I can't say that I am "Cured" and I can't fully guarantee that I won't ever have a fall similar to Matt's. I know that daily mass and staying closely connected to my healthy male friends tends to keep those temptations away.
Even though I have generally avoided pornography for the last three years and have a filter on my computer, there are still occasions when the temptations come back. It's much less frequent than before. It happens about once a month now. I realize that I'm not a perfect role model. Many of my friends have much longer periods of sexual sobriety. I see God continuing to work on sanctifying me and bringing me closer to Him. I am grateful that He has never given up on me.
"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." - Philippians 1:6